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Doubting your own worth and resisting self-love? This one is for you.

In this episode of Illuminations Fi and I explore self-love. It is a valuable subject to consider as many still think that self-love is selfish and less than desirable. How we think about and treat ourselves is how we present ourselves to the world. We teach others how to treat us and importantly we teach our children how they should view and treat themselves.

Take a moment to imagine whom you could be if you have self-love. Imagine if you would value yourself enough to give yourself time for self-care – what would life be like?


  • What does self-love look / feel like for you?
  • How do you know when you have self-love?

When you love yourself for the person you are (not what you do), you are more capable of genuinely loving those around you with an open and honest heart.

Remember that you are kind of stuck with yourself for the rest of your life. It is the one relationship that is guaranteed.

Make it a good one.

Here’s that beautiful poem by Mary Oliver that Fi read in this episode of Illuminations:

The Journey

One day you finally knew

what you had to do, and began,

though the voices around you

kept shouting

their bad advice–

though the whole house

began to tremble

and you felt the old tug

at your ankles.

“Mend my life!”

each voice cried.

But you didn’t stop.

You knew what you had to do,

though the wind pried

with its stiff fingers

at the very foundations,

though their melancholy

was terrible.

It was already late

enough, and a wild night,

and the road full of fallen

branches and stones.

But little by little,

as you left their voices behind,

the stars began to burn

through the sheets of clouds,

and there was a new voice

which you slowly

recognized as your own,

that kept you company

as you strode deeper and deeper

into the world,

determined to do

the only thing you could do–

determined to save

the only life you could save.


Mary Oliver

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